Marriage and Couples Counseling in Roseville, CA
Couples seek help for all sorts of reasons and at various stages in life. Some common situations that bring couples in have included communication issues, drugs and/or alcohol, infidelity, financial disagreements, sex and intimacy barriers, parenting concerns or differences, mental health issues such as depression, issues related to in-laws or extended family, and issues related to blended families.
In addition to some of these common issues that couples face, many couples seek counseling during significant periods or stages of the relationship. Some of those stages include pre-marriage, having and raising children, launching (or attempting to launch) adult children, reconnecting and maintaining connection through later years, and dealing with loss and grief.
It's not uncommon for couples to seek support during these critical times and difficult periods. Even the strongest of relationships go through trying times that can affect the bond. When the bond is frayed or fractured, it's important to get help sooner rather than later so that difficult periods don't develop into more severe situations.
No matter what issues you're facing, it's best to not delay getting help. If you're even thinking you need professional help, that's a good signal that you should call. It's best to address your issues earlier than later. It's not uncommon for couples to make every effort to work through their issues on their own, but getting help from a counseling professional can help save a lot of unnecessary heartache.
Occasionally, the issues do resolve on their own, but if you discover that you have been trying to resolve things on your own and you're still feeling stuck, don't delay getting help. There is no need to chance a meltdown before making the call. Too often, couples wait until one or both partners have their foot out the door, and it's much harder for couples to make progress at that point.
It's well known that divorce can be very expensive, and yet it is very avoidable. Invariably when couples wait too long to get help there is so much negative sentiment built up that even the good moments can be overlooked or glossed over. Dr. John Gottman calls this negative sentiment override, and it can make conversations with your partner feel like trying to move a two ton emotional boulder uphill.
When to seek help
What to expect
You and your partner should both feel comfortable with the counselor with whom you are working. At DeMuri Counseling and Coaching we take a non-judgmental, compassionate, and active approach. We'll be engaged with you every step of the way. We believe there is value in the strengths and skills our clients bring to the counseling process, and we see value in capturing and integrating those in to the process. It's also common for clients to experience the benefits of the counseling process even after just the first session. However, it is also possible that one or both partners could feel as though things are getting worse before they get better. This is due to the process occasionally bringing up difficult memories and raw feelings. Even though it may not feel like it in the moment, processing through these difficult feelings is progress.
We believe that stronger families build better communities. We are committed to providing a safe haven with compassionate support for couples and families to heal and grow.
A thorough evaluation of your relationship. In part, this includes your strengths and needs as a couple, and an in-depth look at how safety is maintained and lost within the relationship.
Ongoing collaboration to put the pieces back together. Exploring emotions, perceptions, attachment needs, and expression of those experiences in a safe process.
Build on newfound safety in the relationship, and create a sustainable way of connecting with one another even in the midst of conflict.
If you have more questions, feel free to contact us directly at 916-400-9570. We are happy to provide a FREE phone consultation to answer any other questions you have, and give you a better sense of the counseling process. We want you to feel at home in the process with us. In the meantime, we also encourage you to look around the site and see if it helps answer your questions prior to your first visit. In addition, we've added some helpful information and tools to help you improve your relationship even outside the counseling process. The information you find is not meant to be a substitute for the professional help you'll obtain in counseling, but we hope that you'll find it helpful to your specific situation. It is our hope to be a trustworthy resource for strengthening your relationship.